It's the 1st day in March.
Officially less than 3 months to the wedding and my moving out of the house which I lived in for the past twenty odd years.
I feel that time is not on my side; I do not have enough of it to cherish the things around me amid my busy working schedule.
In less than 3 months, I will be living together with 3 other men in the house, a vast difference from the current one of 3 other women. I need to adjust to it. No more funny antics of doing things my own way - not locking the door while showering, roaming around the house without a ***, slouching lazily on my sofa, peeling the dead skin on my feet while on the sofa (yucks, I know..).
I kept emphasising to Mommy of the time I have left in this house and this never fail to make her eyes teary. I'm bad, I know. But I just want her to cherish me even more.
She is very concerned about my moving into a different environment and staying with Henry's family, not because she's worried about the difficult MIL-DIL relationship that we have all heard of. She knew my MIL is a very nice MIL.
Mommy knew my character well enough that I'm not a child who knows how to say honeyed words or get into the good books of the elderly easily since young. I was never the one to gain the favour of the elderly as compared to my 2 other sisters. This was what got Mommy worried.
She told me incessantly of what I should do daily when I move over and to call her every night.
I'm going to miss Mommy, Daddy, the 2 sisters and the Pooh Pooh......
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I would say, most mothers-in-law nowadays would not expect to wear honeyed words as much as the MILs as yesteryears... As long as you try to remain positive or neutral with your words, I'm sure you will do fine. =)
ReplyDeleteFor me, the biggest problem is adapting and accepting my MIL's way of living. To me, I think it's quite a low quality of lifestyle - sorry to say that - and so sometimes I feel like I have 'downgraded' by moving in with her. However I console myself that this is not permanent; I have my Havelock flat in 2013 to look forward to. But for you, you guys still don't have a place yet, so I'm more worried about this aspect for you.
But at least, you have weekends to look forward to when you go back to your own place! However you will realise, that the nicest MIL will still mind it when her DIL keeps going back to her maiden home... Somehow, that generation still thinks that that is a 'loss of face' and lack of respect from the DIL. That was what happened to my girlfriend, even though she told her MIL from the start, that she would go back her mum's place every 2 weeks.
Relationships can be complicated, and no two situations are the same. This is what I can advise you for now. When your time comes, you will know what to do and what not. =)