I have often heard horrible stories about Mother-In-Law (MIL) from people around me or the stereotypical relationship between Daughter-In-Law and MIL from the reel. Somehow, it never deterred me from moving in to stay with Baby's family after marriage, while waiting for our BTO flat to be ready.
I am really, really blessed to have a MIL who is amicable, easy-going, self-sacrificial and even treats me like her own!
After being married to Baby for 1.5 years, it dawned on me occasionally that we can choose our lifetime partner, the one whom we want to get married to BUT we can never choose our MILs. It comes in a package with our husbands.
Hence, I am fortunate that I can have the best of both worlds! Hearing MIL stories from friends like Joo, Clarie, Sherlyn, Wei Ling, etc made me love and appreciate my MIL even more. At times, we may share stories of married life with one another and I must say I am always proud to "show off" my MIL to them!
In fact, Baby's family tried their very best to accomodate to my style of living and make it a comfortable and cosy home for me.
Ever since I moved in, my MIL has been diligently making breakfast for me every single morning and she tries to make home-cooked dinners that are piping hot so that we are able to enjoy them once we showered after reaching home.
I remembered vivdly once when I told her I had constipation, she started to prepare fruits for me to bring to work so as to aid in my digestion. How sweet and thoughtful of her!
Now that I am expecting our first baby, she took even more delicate care of me, making sure I get sufficient nutrients for Bebe, eating well and being stress-free. After every gynae visit, she will be asking how is Bebe progressing, what did the gynae say, etc. So when she got to know of my depleting red blood cells i.e lack of iron, she finds out from me what are the iron-rich food and piles up on them for each meal!
She is like a super MIL to me! I admire her for taking the effort to make wolfberry & red dates tea for me and not forgetting the yummy kampung chicken soup that takes up to 6 hours of boiling, etc.
When I experienced the lowdowns of not being able to get a job when expecting, she encouraged me and told me to make use of this time to relax first and that to take things slower when it comes to landing a job offer. During that period while I was staying home most of the time, she made sure breakfast, lunch and dinner are easily available to me.
There were times when I feel like I was on the verge of breaking down, probably due to the pregnancy hormones or the helplessness of being a first-time mum. My MIL provided lots of comfort ( I guess she could tell from my perpetual listless moods) in assuring me that everything is going to be fine. She always assured me that there is 没有解决不了的问题, 大问题化成小问题 and 小问题就化成没问题了. I always feel so much better after talking to her because she made me feel that she will be there to help out and solve my problems.
My MIL even dispelled my fear of labour, saying that it was just the contractions that hurt a little but the labour pain is still manageable. She was even prepared to sacrifice her part-time job to take care of her granddaughter full-time once Baby and I have come to an agreement on the arrangement. She knew her freedom will be compromised and will not be able to have a social life compared to now but it does not matter to her at all!
All I can say is that, there is really no nit-picking on this MIL of mine. I know I should not take her for granted and must keep myself in check that I have the most wonderful MIL in the world!
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